In the Old Testament, at the Tower of Babel, God knew that if the peoples’ language was confused, they would not succeed. Communication is so important in your marriage. We can have lots of communication good and bad but, bad communication brings destruction to relationships. We will succeed, if we go after having Godly communication.
We communicate feelings improperly when we have a bad attitude. Communication sets the tone for the whole household. Throughout the day, if things get heated up here are some things God tells us to do in His Word when communicating with others.
• Ask and involve; don’t accuse. (Prov. 15:3b “…grievous words stir up anger”).
• Diffuse tense communication with a soft answer. (Prov. 15:1 “A soft answer turns away wrath”).
• Habitually build up your spouse with your words. (Eph. 4:29: “Let no corrupt communication proceed out of your mouth, but that which is good to the use of edifying, that it may minister grace to the hearers”).
• Habitually control your tongue; how you talk and what you say (Ps. 39:1 “I will take heed to my ways; that I sin not with my tongue: I will keep my mouth with a bridle…”).
• Don’t store your anger, rather address it in a Godly way. Respond, don’t react (Eph 4:26: “Be ye angry, and sin not: let not the sun go down on your wrath”),(Titus 2:8).
So my challenge to husbands and wives today is to really think about how you are communicating with your spouse, and then commit to improve it by doing what God’s Word says to do.
